In our society, it is often said that you need to act a certain way and possess certain qualities to be a real man. But what does that mean? What are the characteristics of a good man? And how can you become one? In this blog post, we will provide tips on being a better man and outline some of the key traits that make up a great guy. So if you’re looking to improve your life and become more of the man you want to be, read on!
In our society, there is a constant battle between what it means to be a ‘man’ and what it means to be a ‘woman.’ While people are working towards more gender equality, the traditional definition of being a man still lingers. There are many expectations and pressures put on men, and it can be challenging to know how to navigate them all while still remaining true to oneself.
1. Be Committed To Work
Always complete your tasks at work. If you start something, make sure you finish. This skill will serve you well as you progress through your career and take on larger projects with greater responsibilities.
Does this mean always doing what someone else wants without voicing an opinion? No! But it does mean permitting yourself to speak up when necessary and articulating your point of view respectfully and thoughtfully.
2. Be Reliable & Dependable
If someone asks for your help, don’t let them down. Make time outside of work for friends and family within reason. Always be there to support them, emotionally or financially, if you can.
When someone is upset or sad, comfort them, and let them know that they are loved by you (assuming this is true). If appropriate, ask what you can do to help make things better for the person in question.
When used correctly, a man’s hero instinct is a good thing and can turn disastrous when it manipulates your thoughts and functioning.
3. Be Empathetic
It’s okay to feel emotions too!
Above all else, remember that ‘being a man doesn’t have one definition. There are many different ways of being just as valid as each other. So don’t put yourself down if you’re not doing any of these things perfectly yet- just try your best!
Make sure that you are not judging the person expressing their feelings or perceiving their thoughts through your prism of understanding. Take every word they say as truth so that you can genuinely feel what they are feeling.
Being kind isn’t something explicitly reserved for women; act with empathy towards others rather than treating them like objects (ignoring their feelings etc.). Try to be polite and show respect towards everyone.
4. Be Patient
Patience is an integral part of being a good man- try to maintain composure in most situations, and if someone around you is angry or upset, remain calm until they’ve calmed down themselves.
It just means using good judgment when deciding whether something is right for you or not. It means not letting peer pressure influence your decisions too much because you know that it’s the best one for you, whatever you choose.
5. Stand Up For Yourself
Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself! Stand up against bullies who pick on innocent people; standing up alone doesn’t give you power, but we become more potent when more of us stand together.
Be comfortable with your sexuality! How you express yourself should come from a place of comfort, not insecurity. Just because other people are looking at you in a certain way doesn’t mean that’s how they actually perceive you- everyone is unique and has their own set of morals/values. So just be yourself.
6. Acknowledge Your Emotions
Don’t think that being an emotional man makes you any less of a man! It’s okay to feel things, but also try to hide your emotions too- it gets exhausting having to deal with the same sadness or frustration day after day, so find ways to care for yourself, don’t bottle everything up inside until it becomes too much. Set boundaries for what you’re willing to accept; if someone mistreats you, walk away, etc.
Take care of the little things- it’s easy to get caught up in what you’re doing and all of your responsibilities, so don’t forget to take a break, relax and recharge whenever you can. It would help if you weren’t running yourself into the ground, but self-care is important.
7. Respect Others Just As You Respect Yourself
Respect yourself and respect others. This might sound like two separate things, but in reality, they go together. How we treat ourselves is how we treat others, and vice versa. If we don’t feel good about our own behavior, then why would we expect anyone else to? Whether it’s putting yourself down when you say something wrong or refusing someone’s request because you think it makes you look weak – all of these things add up. Eventually, you don’t have any self-respect. And when you can’t respect yourself, how on earth are you meant to make someone else respect you?
Respect others’ opinions! While you may think everyone should be like you, it’s simply not true. Not everyone will agree with what you believe in or how you do things, but that doesn’t make them wrong; people are entitled to their own thoughts/beliefs, etc. before someone else steps back for a second and puts yourself in their shoes (which can actually help here!)
8. Opinion Of Others Matter Far Less
Don’t let the opinion of others dictate who you are. While it’s nice to connect and relate to others, at the end of the day, you need to make sure what you think about yourself isn’t dictated by what others think about you. You may find that someone doesn’t like something you do/you aren’t good at, but try your best not to hate yourself (and continue doing these things) simply because they don’t like them!
9. Ask For Help!
It is okay to ask for help. Don’t be afraid or ashamed of asking someone if they could help you move something heavy or jump start your car because “a man should know how to do these things already” (because we all know that’s not true!). Asking for help doesn’t make you weak; it actually shows strength! You allow yourself to grow and learn new things, so continue to ask questions and never stop learning.
10. A Man Does Cry!
It is okay to cry, don’t worry; you’re not going to burst into a puddle of tears every time something goes wrong. We all experience stress and sadness, but crying doesn’t make us less of a man! In fact, the opposite is true – it shows that we are able to let our emotions out instead of bottling them up inside, where it can lead to bigger problems down the line. Just remember: a good cry will make you feel better, so don’t be afraid or ashamed of expressing yourself.
Everybody has an idea of how and what a man should be, so do you! Remember, you are not entitled to adhere to standards of behavior or decency set by others. As a man, or a woman for that matter, you are completely free to follow your heart’s desire in actions and conduct.
The only care you need to take as a responsible human being is to never hurt others emotionally in the process.
Your authentic expression of the self matters, you matter. It is time you loved yourself as hard and deep as you love your friends and family!